Interview with Hijra film makers.

By Darren Marples.

Edited by Tom Wiese.

I managed to catch up with a film maker who is in the process of setting up a documentary about the Hijra folk in India.

Hijra-Trans sex workers getting ready for work

Could you please introduce yourself:

I’m Ila Mehrotra Jenkins, I’m the director of the documentary HIJRA. I grew up in Delhi and I’ve been based in Britain for the last decade. During this time I’ve been working in British television, specifically in documentaries and current affairs with the BBC, Channel 4 and ITV. HIJRA is my first feature documentary.

Most people will not know who hijra people are who read our article, due to culture differences. How do the hijra differ from Western Transgender? Could you please explain?

Hijras are the oldest ethnic transgender community in the world. Hijras are known as the ‘holy hermaphrodites’ from ancient Hindu scriptures. The scriptures say the hijras have the power to bless and curse, and even today that belief is very prevalent.
Tradition holds that a hijra must leave their biological family and society to live within a hijra family and earn a living through their blessings. Through the centuries, the hijra community has grown to absorb very large numbers of trans and non-binary people, particularly from the lower sections of Indian society. Paradoxically, while hijras are considered ‘holy’ in society, it is a matter of grave shame to manhood to have a hijra within one’s family. Unfortunately, young trans-hijras are often excluded from their biological families to live amongst hijras. They continue to bless in exchange for money in India today, but a very large number of hijras are forced to beg and do sex work to survive, excluded from education and mainstream society. As in many parts of the world, hijra people in India face extreme violence, marginalisation and abuse; but unlike in many countries, while facing extreme ostracisation, transgender people can find a precarious acceptance in society as “sacred” figures.

What are the rights both legally and socially of the hijra community in India?

In 2014, the Supreme Court of India recognised transgender people as a Third Gender and a socially and economically backward class entitled to reservations in education and jobs, and also directed union and state governments to frame welfare schemes for them.
This tabled bill was then passed in 2018 in a much watered down and heavily amended version that provides the equal recognition and protection only in theory.
Although homosexuality was finally decriminalised in 2018, in reality, hijras continue to face massive discrimination, marginalisation, violence and abuse, as societal prejudice is very widespread.

Hijra- Trans activist – warrior, Rudrani

How important is the making of this film for yourselves and society understanding and what do you wish to achieve in the making?

We hope to share the stories of hijras. One such astonishing activist for the hijra community is Rudrani Chettri. Part of this film includes her and the hijras she helps, and through this film we hope the world will hear the voices of the trans-hijra community. Further, we hope for the film to raise support of Rudrani’s work and help with increasing acceptance for trans-hijra identities, in the way they wish to be defined.

What can other cultures learn from the hijra?

The hijra trans community inspires others to have the courage to live beyond restrictive gender norms. While they have faced severe discrimination hijras have also thrived as a welcoming community to those who choose to live a transgender identity.

Hijra blessing at a temple.

How can others support you?

We are currently asking for financial support through our crowdfunding campaign:

These funds would allow us to continue making the documentary, and will help get us into production for two crucial shoots. We’d ask you to please support us and share the project widely and support Rudrani’s work for acceptance, love and respect for the trans hijras in all their human complexity.
This film will spread the word about the struggle these incredible people face, encouraging international solidarity by documenting the hope and force of will they display, and reaching out to the wider community on their behalf.

Kye Allums. 

@pridematters1

In this series we look at various heroes and advocates of the LGBTQIA family.

In this article we focus on a Transgender male. 

Kye Allums. 

Kye Allums was the first openly transgender to play in NCAA division basketball in America.

Kye Allums was born in 1989 as Kyler Kelican Allums  and was a college basket ball player for George Washington University. In 2010 Allums became the first openly transgender to play NCAA division.

He is quoted in saying something all members of the LGBTQIA community can understand. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I had to come out because it was too hard not being myself.”

 

Kye has openly spoke about his own attempts of suicide from the pressures of the story breaking about his transition and how much more needs to be done to highlight the dangers of suicide in transgenders.

Kye has written a book about his experiences. The book is called ‘Who am I’.

Kye is an inspiration for any lgbtqia activist, when asked what he wished to do with the rest of his life he replied…

“I’ll just be trying to make some kind of difference in the world and look forward to my life”


Other reading material:

Meet the first openly transgender NCAA athlete http://ti.me/1FShwv2

http://www.advocate.com/news/daily-news/2011/05/19/kye-allums-leaving-basketball

A link to Kye’s book reviewed:

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25204403-who-am-i

Interview with Ivory Black. 

​Interviewer @pridematters1 

Part two. 


Let’s talk about music! 



How and why did you get into music primarily? 

Music has always been part of my life. I remember going to my dad’s work to stay out of my mom’s “hair” and he had a few tape recorders that I used to record little ideas on for myself so I could listen to them when I got home. I wasn’t allowed many secular choices in music so I listened to a lot of old tapes my mother had lying around while also listening to my own music that I recorded at my dad’s work. That really pushed me to learn more about the craft of songwriting, layering sounds and finding harmony that ultimately created my own sound.

What is your greatest success so far? 

Personally, I think my greatest success so far is that I’m still out there trying my hardest doing what I love most, and that is sharing my music and the message presented in the lyrics with all those that relate. In music there’s enough “friendly competition” that sometimes likes to get out of hand and though it pushes you to be better, it’s easy to forget why you started in the first place. The past two years and since I have a manager now, visibility has increased due to TV and radio appearances, I released my first EP in 2015 “Ready Get Set”, played several big festivals etc, although the love of it is the main reason. It’s pure and people tend to get it more when you’re having fun. I find that It goes hand in hand and I can’t imagine myself doing anything else. It’s literally who I am. But it also becomes overwhelming at times.


Clearly there are very few non binary people within the music industry as much as in public life too. How important is this to change? 

The concept is fairly new. I think people are focused more on trans rights and the LGBTQIA movement that these ideas of “non-binary” just sound like a gimmick to sway the focus. I can assure you that it’s very real and to be honest, trans and gay people alike have inspired each other so much that others have been inspired to be who they are which is AMAZING! 

I think the lack of gender non-conforming people in music definitely needs to change. The more people out there that defy the idea of gender will spark more enlightenment of what it is to be human, and not just an idea of what a human is. So yes. Most definitely get more of us out there in the world. We need each other regardless of how we identify or present ourselves. Let’s inspire each other as much as possible. It’s working so far!

Does your self identity effect your music and how? 

Since discovering my inner identity I have freely adapted myself to expanding on my craft. I’m more into the idea of bending and shaping ideas I have now before accepting who I was and there’s also still that torment of what it is to be yourself in a world that still sees you for their preconceived notions of who you are. So that’s really hard but it comes out in my music VERY transparently, pun intended. 

I always ask at the end if there is a message you would like to put out there. 

Identity is a very fragile thing. Since children we have been conditioned to think and behave a certain way. But there comes a point when you can say STOP. This ISNT the way it is or even should be. There comes a point in your life where you can accept your own morals (harmless hopefully) and spread your ideas so that others can grow from them. Music is an amazing tool to do just that!!! Hopefully my music can speak louder than what I say. And my ACTIONS speak louder than my music, respectfully.

Here are a few social media links and ways to purchase Ivory Black’s music…. 

You can find me on the following Social Media Sites

My Site: http://www.ivoryblackmusic.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/ivoryblackmusic

Twitter: @ivoryblackmusic

Instagram: @ivryblack

Purchase music: https://www.cdbaby.com/Artist/IvoryBlack2
Respectfully, 

IVØRY BLACK


Link to part one 

http://wp.me/p78BZ8-1dR

Interview with Ivøry Black: Part One. 

Interviewer @pridematters1

Hello. Thanks for doing this interview with me. 

Absolutely! And it’s my pleasure.

How do you identify yourself?

I am proud to say that I have a non-binary identity and I am continually getting to know myself everyday.

 

Many people who read this won’t be familiar with the term non-binary when referring to gender. Can you explain for these people. 

When I say non-binary I am referring to the mindset of how one identifies oneself. Not how others see them. I may one-day present as male and another as female or even another day as a mixture of both. However this has nothing to do with what it is to be non-binary OR even trans. It isn’t what you wear or how you appear to others on the gender spectrum. It’s how you perceive yourself like any identity. With that said I find myself on the outside of the spectrum of gender. I don’t completely identify as either. On the other hand I’m strictly neutral. I’m fluid in how I present myself but to me I find gender in my universe to be very personal as it can be as we say… unique. 

When did you realise that you are non-binary?

I had a period in my life where I was full on male presenting and as direct as I can put it, I just didn’t quite kill the role. Not that I couldn’t, it was just that I had no need to. It was a lot like playing music that didn’t really make me move. There are ideas of what gender is on either side and one day I realized I didn’t want to fit any of those “specifications”. I can have the freedom to be who I am regardless of what it “means” to be one way or the other but it wasn’t until about 5 years ago that I learned that who I am had a name.

How did this affect your life at the time? 

At the time prior to my revelation, I had adopted many labels that I thought suited my personality and mindset best. So of course I presented as these identities. Over the years, however, I discovered in myself a very two-spirited personality. This brought on the inspiration for my name Ivøry Black as well as how I socially presented myself, but not presenting myself stereotypically as anything at all. I wear androgynous clothing, and as a male born individual that would seem odd as one would think of non-binary for a male to present a more feminine personality and presentation. But I am not what I wear and I found my life was greatly affected by how I presented the idea of what “non-binary” was while still holding onto my personal values of what gender attributes I wanted to present socially. People have their own preconceived ideas of what gender is to them and it shows daily in my world. Ie : I give you the gritty concept of PRONOUNS.

What would you like to achieve, realistically for yourself and for visibility? 

My initial goal on a large scale is to inspire all I can with my music. I want to put on a show where everyone leaves enlightened and pumped to be a great human being! I think there is a movement happening and I want my music to be a voice for a silent cry in the middle of chaos putting itself back together. 

Visibility wise I want to be as engaged into the LGBTQIA community as I possibly can. We may have different identities but we all love great music and to have a fun time meeting new people and inspiring others. I hope to jump on board and have a great impact on an already flourishing concept. The rainbow is an amazing symbol and the more diversity the merrier I think.

In part two we talk about Ivøry Black’s music, how their self identity influences and defines their music too. 

Here are a few social media links and ways to purchase Ivøry Black’s music…. 

You can find me on the following Social Media Sites

My Site: http://www.ivoryblackmusic.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/ Ivøry.

Twitter: @Ivøryblackmusic

Instagram: @ivryblack

Purchase music: https://www.cdbaby.com/Artist/IvoryBlack2
Respectfully, 

IVØRY BLACK

Transgender and Allies Day Of Visability 

by @Aunty_Vicki

Firstly a poem

A new method of thinking of pre & post transition trans people. 

While in the closet, 

I was not being authentic me, 

far from it really! 

So the person you thought you knew,

is gone now

with some pieces from before

but changes, there are more, 

an actor plays in many different series and so on, 

each character they play is different, 

so it is for pre & post transition, 

companies rebrand and everyone copes, 

& changes in a short amount of time, 

why is it with people, 

that this takes more time?

With Donald Trump now as President of the United States, This years Day of Vsability is more important than ever, standing up against Trumps Transphobic Policies that have already seen some of Barack Obalma’s equalising policies reversed.

The latest blow, is that Gavin Grimm’s case for being able to use The gents is now going to be heard at a lower court, rather than at the supreme court.
Wake up people and smell the roses. Transgender people have been around since Eve was made from Adam’s Rib, unless of course Trump sore in on a piece of Fiction. Yet it has only been the last few years that laws about who can pee where have made the news. The simple fact of the matter is, a large number of people have shared a bathroom with someone trans without anything untoward happening to them. We are in there for pretty much the same reason as you, we need the bathroom, to fix our make up in the giant mirrors in there, or to chat in private for a few minutes with other female friends.
Looking back 2 years ago, I had a temperairy tat to help celbibrate the day of Visability. Things were heading in the direction of being better together then.  Hopefully in time, that which has been given and then snatched away will return to stay.


Humans are Humans. 

That simple fact needs to be realised and legally recognised.

Another peom to finish with:

locally it is the weeks of pride

a wide variety of events for everyone including you

while I live on being me

Some ask what is pride about

for those #LGBTQIA+,

non binary

it is a piece of our history, 

documenting the pathway to becoming more equal, 

than we were before, 

Celebrate and love safely, 

Kind regards from this Asexual Trans woman lady.

This is the view of the author and may or may not be the view of Pride matters or any other authors. 


One Subject: Transgender. 

This series focuses on different points of views and experiences. 

No one was aware of the others replies, giving varied and unbiased diversity in the answers. 

The focus was on Transgender people this time as we asked the below question(s) 

Many people who are transgender rightfully take their time in choosing the name they wish to be called. I asked several people who identify as Transgender the question;

How did you choose your new name?

Do you recall any interesting stories about choosing your new name?

Can you give any good advise to help others in their decision?


@ftmtransmanalex 

I haven’t legally changed my name yet, but I do prefer to go by Seth. 

At first it was Alexander, but it was way too close to my birth name, and I didn’t like it, so I asked a group chat I was apart of, and they helped me pick a good one. 

To anyone picking a name; go with the one you feel comfortable with, it might change a lot, but it will work out in the end.

@TransEthics

Legally, there were surprisingly few obstacles, and it was easy.

The biggest issue was getting my coworkers to call me by my new name. I solved that by ignoring people when they ‘deadnamed’ me.

Originally I just used a feminized version of my given name, but when I moved to a new city it was difficult for the new people in my life to recall. Several of them (independently of each other) just started calling me Vikki because it “seemed to fit” me. I liked it, and decided to keep it.

Among my friends it was received very well. My mom was probably the biggest hurdle, and it took her meeting me as her daughter in person for it to finally stick.

One’s new name doesn’t have to be a ‘regendered’ version of your birth name. It can be anything. Choose someone who inspires you, or whom you admire. Think about various choices, and try writing out your new name(s). Try to pick something that feels right for you.



@furiouslyqueer

The hardest part about changing my name was figuring out what the new one should be. It felt like a lot of pressure to pick something that was at once personal, significant, easy to pronounce, and at least a little bit badass.

Overall I’ve had very positive feedback over the new name, despite it being a bit weird. It has very personal significance so I’m glad it’s not been torn apart by anyone. The only “negative” comment I’ve had was from my mum who wondered if it didn’t sound “a bit too feminine”. I told her I’m not afraid of femininity and I’m very happy with showing that in my name.

It’s so tempting to get the approval of others when trying to decide on a new name, but don’t be bothered with the opinions of others. Don’t be scared of choosing a name because it’s unusual, or unique, or it’s shared by a character from a book or a TV show, or because it’s too popular. Your name is yours, and no one with that name has ever existed the way you exist, and lived the way you live.

@Aunty_Vicki

My method was to test drive names informally for a while to make sure they felt better than my birth-assigned name, before formalising it. In my experience, barriers to name and gender change included: fees for new birth certificate, reissuing fees for qualifications and formal identification such as driver’s license, credit cards, being ‘deadnamed’ even after your name is legally changed, and the endless task of contacting every business that has your details to update them – this included insurance companies, utilities etc. In some cases, a large number of copies of your new birth certificate are required to be mailed into some organisations to update their records.

On the plus side, you now have a name that fits you better than what someone assigned you at birth. For some people, Transgender more than any other group, name change is often accompanied by a change of pronouns, from ‘he’ to ‘she’ and so on. This also has its own set of barriers, such as the delay of filing a gender change, and the actual court date. To keep in mind, the amount of redtape and proof level required for gender recognition varies by country and state. The best country that I am aware of for such things is Canada, where it can all be done online in a few minutes, and it is free there.


@bartolomeo_lisa

Most people don’t get to choose their own names, unless they are a celebrity of some kind. We all have different stories and different levels of acceptance of who we are. Early on I realized that many things about me didn’t match with who I was, and who I wanted others to see. I was about 5 years old, sitting in the kitchen with my favorite person in the world; my mom. I asked her point blank, what would my name have been – she replied nonchalantly “Elisabeth”, so for the longest time I only answered to that name. As I got a little older, and some of my personality blossomed I realised – Elisabeth is a Jane Austen character – I was Lisa; not a laced-up, well-bred lady who gets the vapors, but was a take no shit, take no prisoners snarky chic, who can handle herself. In retrospect, I could’ve picked anything later in my journey – “Selena” like Catwoman or Aria, but my mom supported me always without question, it was kind of the least I could do. Nauseating, right?

@glitterkinney

As I grew to understand myself as a transgender girl, I kind of took my new name choice for granted.  My mother had two names picked out:  one for Boy, one for Girl.  Out of respect for my mom I just assumed my name would be Amanda when I came out as transgender.  I figure I’d at least honor her by choosing the name I should have been born with in the first place.  I wasn’t thrilled but hey, I didn’t get a chance to pick out my male name, either. It felt real and natural and safe.  Another piece of myself clicked into place and there was no question after that.  I love my mom but this is about what I feel is right for my life.

Goodbye, Amanda!

Hello, Kinney!

I know, no matter the name, it’s my character and heart that will be what identifies me as a woman and as a person.

All questions in this series were discussed beforehand before taking part, in order to ask questions suited to the groups asked. 

If you wish to take part in the following group question please contact us, in order to go on the list. 

Next group in order: Bisexual, Asexual, Lesbian, gay men, mix group. 

Christine Jorgensen

By @pridematters1

In this series we look at various heroes and advocates of the LGBTQIA family.

In this article we focus of Transgender female, Christine Jorgensen. 

Christine Jorgensen was one of the first American trans women to be open and widely known in America for having sex reassignment surgery. She grew up in New York and shortly after high school was drafted in the U.S army for World War II. After the war and attending several schools, learning about transitioning surgery she travelled to Copenhagen to undergo a series of operations beginning in 1951.

On her return to America Christine became front page news in New York Daily news.  

She felt overwhelmed with headlines such as “Bronx boy becomes a girl” and “Ex – GI becomes blond beauty”, as you can imagine.

However she became a big hit in America, becoming an advocate for transgender persons, being visible working as an actress and recording several songs.

Born: May 30th 1926

Died: May 3rd 1989

Interview with Aydian Dowling, a transgender male from America. 

​Interviewer @pridematters1 

Hello Aydian, Thanks for doing this interview with me. First of all could you tell me a little about yourself? 

My name is Aydian Ethan Dowling, I identify as a transgender man, I was born female and transitioned to a man. I came out as a lesbian when I was about fifteen or sixteen years old and lived as a lesbian until I was about 21 when I came out as transgender. I also identify as an entrepreneur as I own a clothing company called Point5CC.com as well as just started a non-profit called PointOfPride.org 

I also identify as well as a motivational speaker as I love to encourage and promote people to find the strength and power they have within themselves and share the gifts they have inside themselves with the world.

I have been on YouTube documenting my transition since Feb 2009 (first YouTube transition video). I have been on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) since oct 2009 also and I got top surgery done in the summer of 2012.

I got a little popular, some may say, when I was in the running to be the first transgender man to be on the cover of men’s health magazine, that was the November readers edition 2015, that was really exciting being the first transgender man interviewed for men’s health, that was freakin’ awesome!

Where did you grow up and what was it like coming out in transition?

I grew up in Long Island, NY, and graduated high school in 2005, I was very much a 90s kid, and I came out as a lesbian when I was going to catholic school, so that was really tough, I told my one best friend, and then when I was going to public school for 11th and 12th grade, I came out to my mother. 

I was the only out lesbian, there was an out male at my HS too, he was the same grade, and we became friends because we were the only two out people in school and seeking transition, I didn’t identify as transgender until I was out of HS, and even then I didn’t have anywhere to go, I used to drive 45 mins closer to the city in order to go to a weekly meeting, and then when I had to go to see the doctor I would take the 1.5hr train ride which is hell expensive to seek actual physical transitioning.

How much support did you receive from your family?

I received a moderate amount from my family, they were not kicking me out or kicking and screaming and telling me they were disgraced but they did take some time to come around it was kind of like a very Italian family, we don’t talk much, we don’t express our feelings much so it was kind of said , told my mother, then father then brothers separately and it was said and then it went quiet, my name and using pronouns was avoided.

I was pretty confident and transitioned quickly, I came out in Feb and by Oct I had already got permission and qualified to get HRT, so it wasn’t super quick almost a whole year, but I would say by the beginning of 2010 people were calling me Aydian and using the correct pronouns so that was really great, I was lucky.

If you could send a message to other transgender people, what would it be?


If you identify as trans or questioning your gender, I would say EXPLORE, don’t be so afraid to explore, don’t put yourself in dangerous explorations, you know, maybe your first exploration is in a house, maybe if you’re female born and thinking about being male maybe try buying a binder and wearing it around the house, and see what that feels like, how do you feel wearing it, do you like looking the mirror, do you like what you see? 

Maybe you’re a male and you identify as female and you’re scared to dress out, why don’t you host something at home with your friends then dress up then, in the safety of your own house how do you feel, what do you feel when you look in the mirror. how do you feel when people “she” you or “girl” you, or maybe you’re androgynous and you’re exploring your gender and you’re not too sure where you fit on the spectrum, go explore, maybe go to a Queer Event go to a meeting at an LGBT centre, or a queer night at your local LGBT bar, see what those people are like and see if you identify with those people, just explore. It’s about exploring, we can’t be so afraid to explore, if you don’t explore you never find the treasure.

What are your thoughts or issues on transgender using public facilities such as gyms?

My issues are, if you identify you should be able to use whatever you identify as, I hate the fact that people think paedophiles and rapists will be using this, because it is so clear when you talk to somebody who is transgender and who is not, when someone is faking it you can tell, their energy is “faking it”, when you are talking to somebody who does not match the stereotypical binary definition of that gender, you can tell if they truly see themselves that way or if they are faking it so that they can get into use restrooms and look at inappropriate things, so it bothers me a lot that people just assume because you’re trans you must be in the category of a paedophile or a rapist, it is totally insane.


How can we get around these issues and improving their health?


Honestly, if you have an issue going or using the gym or restroom then we have to use what is available, so for instance my gym is across the street from a Starbucks. Starbucks is awesome, they’re great, they’re super inclusive, change at Starbucks, they have a single stall bathroom at every Starbucks, they’re gender neutral, most of them identify that way and if not at least there is a single stall, get changed there. That would be a great place to start, getting changed there, using the restroom there, don’t allow other people to deny you happiness and health. that is the last thing you want to do, is let somebody else at the gym, or someone else on the track, or someone else on the field, or someone else on the path made you feel bad for trying to do better than you already are. Because you know what, that is exactly what you’re there for, and if they’re going to judge you for that then you don’t want to be around them anyway, so you’re lucky they’re not in your lives.


Tell me a little more about your clothing line. 

So I started a clothing line called Point5CC.com and I started it because I myself wanted top surgery I was on hormones just about three years and I had almost a full grown beard and I still had breast tissues, living in Florida with binding and it was just getting really tough I got married, bound, it was hard being married as a man and woman and having to wear a binder so I wanted to raise money so I tried a million different things, tried selling cupcakes and bake sales, selling wood carvings because I like woodwork, and nothing worked. Nothing made any money, took extra hours at work and I was on an MTV Loco Special called ‘It Gets Better’, and I got paid $250 for three days of my time, and I went and bought a screen-printing press, and I screen-printed a super-tee logo (Superman logo with a T in it) and started selling online for $20, so I would go to Wal-Mart and buy the shirt for $5, and make the shirt and then I would ship it and keep the $13 I would make off every shirt after shipping, and that is literally how I made the company. In about 6-9 months between that and taking on extra hours – they didn’t have GoFundMe accounts back then – I was able to get my top surgery and through this programme I decided to keep it open because at the time there was no other companies making transgender t-shirts and there were no other companies promoting pride in the trans community. There was no other trans representation , the company was officially started April 2012 before Laverne Cox, before Janet Monk, and so it was a big deal to have it open and I am really proud of it and it grew a lot in the last two to three years it was really a baby brand and now we raise money for top surgeries and other trans surgeries and now we have a binder program and we’ve given away over $1000 free binders and we grew so big out of Point5CC that we started point of pride dot org and now we have all of our programs there, and we have a board of six or nine people and it’s going really well it’s in the birthing stages and we’re still looking for funding and it’s in the process.

Is there any other message you would like to put out there?

Overall the message is in everything I do, believe in yourself and to look inside yourself that no one will believe in you more than yourself and you better start believing now because no one is going to help you get up better than yourself,, it’s not a me vs the world concept, there are people that will support you, it’s more just a me vs me the only person limiting you is yourself or the people you keep around you who are feeding you limitations and we especially in the LGBT community and other minorities are oppressed we need to fight past our own insecurities and our own fears and band together and defeat those that are trying to really work against us.

Thank you, Aydian for agreeing to this interview with me today. I wish you luck in the future. 

Social media and websites of interest. 

www.AydianEthanDowling.com

www.Point5cc.com

www.PointofPride.org

facebook.com/pointofpride

facebook.com/point5cc

facebook.com/aydianethandowling

Instagram and twitter

@pointofpride

@aydianethandowling

@point5cc

@alionsfear

My thoughts as an ally on Transgender awareness.

Each year on November 20th Transgender Remembrance day is marked for those who have fallen for simply being transgender. It’s hard to imagine receiving that knock on the door to discover your own son, daughter, brother, or sister have been murdered for being themselves or took their own lives, simply for being visible. 

A friend of mine,  neighbour discovered their transgender daughter hanging in their shed, due to bullying. They didn’t fail their child, the bullies failed their own humanity. Their child wasn’t weak but weakened by others constant bullying tactics. Some will disagree with me but it’s nothing short of murder by proxy. 

Aydian Dowling : The first Transgender male to appear on Gay Times magazine.

Imagine if they supported the other football team and got caught up in the other supporters and punished for being in the wrong shirt, let alone the wrong body, as transgender people feel they are.

No one can justify murder, bullying or intolerance of another human being

It’s simply evil and is equally as wrong to turn a blind eye, yet hundreds, maybe thousands do. 

Of cause there have been many gay men, women and bisexual men slaughtered in simular ways but not as many as in the transgender communities, when it comes to their percentages. 

I’m not saying that any life is any less important, It’s not,  we are all simply nature’s beautiful creation. However when one groups peecentages are higher on the ‘charts’ than others and nothing seems to be done about it, then something needs to be done about it.

Being a part of a minority, that most of us are in,  one way or another, we need to empathise with other minority groups and ultimately support them in any way we can.

I have heard people say distastefully that transgender people deserve it or they are not helping themselves.

Does anyone deserve to be treated different, simply because they are different to yourself? 

Others will say, again distastefully they are perverts and deserve it.

It’s funny how people can judge others so quickly for being themselves when they fit easily in the more common part of soiecity. 

A few will point out the bible says xyz.

Often my reply to the constant attack that gender, or for that matter sexuality is sinful is… 

That’s your belief system, not theirs and there is no reason why in a world of seven billion people we can’t all enjoy each others diversity and learn to love each other more.

Others  will point out stats or figures that the lgbt community are xyz.

We are not talking about stats. We are talking about people’s lives here!

You have the right to believe what you wish and frankly many will criticise your choices no matter, but you’re  better than them and you need to show that by accepting and understanding others better too. 

Suicides in the LGBTQIA community are higher than any other group, even higher in bisexuals and tragically doubles in transgender comuinity.

I’ve  been doing Pride matters for a few years.  I set it up to raise awareness of all of the LGBTQIA community without prejudice, to help people within the comuinity learn about each other and people beyond our community.

India Willoughby returned to the Tyne Tees regional programmes as the first transgender female newsreader in the UK in Autumn the 2016. Quickly Joining the ITV show Lose women, in mid November 2016.

The biggest thing I’ve learnt is not to be seen as a voice for any group. Its unfair to be another groups voice but to be a platform for them to shine. It’s why I set up the think tank, to discuss all lgbtqia comuinity issues and come up with awareness ideas,amomg other ideas. I’m always looking for new voices by the way, just contact me. 
I have learnt is that all the transgender community need is people to stand at the side, giving support or behind them, giving them back up. After all they are doing pretty well themselves, the pictures I’ve added shows how successful they are doing but that extra support, never harms anyone. 

Listen and learn about their needs, help them fight for equality and a better understanding and that is something we all can do.

Riley Carter Millington, is the first transgender actor to play a transgender character in a UK soap.

If we can not tolerate others, how can we be expected to be tolerated?



Oh yea another thing now and then to acknowledge their acceptance in your heart…….. 

Show them acceptance with….. 

A big fat lingering hug! 

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