Civil Partnerships for everyone!


Before the UK’s government made marriage equality a reality, civil partnerships were introduced and are still available for lgbt couples still. The courts here have seen a couple of failed attempts to achieve equality in civil Partnerships for heterosexual couples , so I asked the question this week.

#lgbt Should civil partnerships be available for everyone, if your country already accepts equality in marriage?

Yes 75%
No 6%
Debunk Civil Partnerships 18%


Here’s are other peoples view on civil partnerships for all


Personally, I think they should be abolished, always just a stepping stone towards equality.

To which I asked

Wouldn’t this mean that people who don’t want marriage have the same rights?

To which he replied

I have a personal opinion, but I’m not gonna stand in the way of someone’s happiness. If cps were opened, so be it.

@beryl_boyce explains why she feels equality with civil partnerships is needed.

My brother & his girlfriend were together for 23yrs before she suddenly died last Sept. They never wanted to marry, but lived together. Now if they’d been able to have CP they’d have done it. But now my brother is in dire straits, everything was in her name. I’ve been helping him change everything over but it’s a challenge. My brother isn’t entitled to any bereavement benefits, widows benefits & this is totally wrong.


@theJBullfrog explains that civil partnerships are available in some States in America for all who wishes to use them as an alternative .

Here in California it’s available. Not sure nationwide. Keep fighting and the UK will get their rights as well.

We also need to understand clearly what would happen to civil partnerships that have already been granted. Automatic upgrade? Just a few thousand people with them, making them unique? Something that would need to be dealt with.

To give everyone a chance to air their opinion, here is one I wish to keep their name off my blog for obvious reasons.

They shouldn’t allow it because it isn’t right… God made two sex’s for a reason.


Clearly a very confusing question for some, unfortunately I’ve had much worst.

This all shows how important equality is for everyone, otherwise it devalues or makes a mockery of existing laws. Of cause the government needs to tread carefully and recently it was decided that more time would be needed to see what decision would be the best. 

Watch this space! 


I want to hold your hand!


Next time you walk in a park on a sunny Sunday afternoon, whilst at a leisurely pace, take note of the amount of people holding hands. Naturally when anyone is with their loved ones, in a certain place and feeling a certain way they do want to show affection, Its human nature, yet we often don’t register when we witness heterosexual couples holding hands, as its a common sight.


However being lgbt and living in a more acceptable society, even England you can feel at the very least ‘apprehensive’. You can even feel more aware, even with our laws sometimes we are up against attitudes too. Especially when you hear stories of pubs and shops ejecting customers for public display of affections. We need to be aware that it was not long ago when we could have been prosecuted in the UK. A law was bought in enforcing previous ones in 1986 in conjunction with the 1967 sexual Offences act, that decriminalised homosexuality but you couldn’t legally share a hotel bed with your partner or kissing your partner in public. Moving away from this mind set is difficult.

This weeks scruples I asked two questions. First was…….

As a member of the #lgbt family do you feel comfortable holding hands in public?

172 people answered
52% No
48% Yes

Of cause we need to look at this as a thought provoking exercise, rather than an exact science and think about who took part and their location. Not just in countries that have anti gay legislation but we know through studies there is a vast difference between rural and urban hate crime towards the lgbt family in countries such as England, Scotland and America .

Here is what some of you said……


whats sad is theres such a high percent of people who are scared to hold hands in public. Hell I’ll grab her bum dont judge!

I replied

Where are you, do you think your loc affects this? As an example living in a city or smaller town & the obviously diff countries

Her reply was…

I’m in Wichita Kansas. People are pretty mean but I don’t let it bother me. I have 1 thing they don’t and that’s fine with me.

and she went on to say…

It’s hard for people to understand but it shouldn’t stop ya from being true to who you are.

How you feel also depends on your generation too as @QBaited pointed out…….

I am a victim of my generation, because even though I could probably hold hands in public, I’m conditioned not to.

So I asked @ProudlyCody what she would say to someone who feels they can’t do something simple as hold hands, she replied……

I’d tell them it’s okay to hold hands in public – that it’s not a crime, it’s love. If straight couples can, so can they.

I had many replies similar to this and support from Heterosexuals too. Odd this week I got no homophobic abuse.

Homophobia is something I fear is making us feel that we can’t show affection this way, which brought me to my second question.

Have you ever witnessed any hate crime towards our #lgbt family in public brought on by visibility?

285 answered
54% Yes
46% No

Clearly and probably no surprised to none of us most of us that have experienced hate crime. This is probably one of the biggest reasons why we often feel we can not hold hands in public.

With time this will change, we can already see changes happening, but we need to ask if we don’t show visibility then are we allowing the homophobes to win and not helping in changing attitudes?

We also need to constantly ask the authorities why more isn’t happening to protect the lgbt community in our areas. This is what happened last year in my area and now the police as set up groups to liaise and cut down the issue. Including the local colleges are involved, as this is where the biggest issue is in our area.

Even if we don’t want to be visible ourselves, perhaps we can support others when they do so and give them words of encouragement?

What a wonderful couple you are or its good to see these days will suffice, after all if you have doubts in doing so they will too.

This doesn’t just stop at holding hands, some of us are more visible than others, like the Transgender community. We need to ask ourselves if we become more visible, holding hands, who else are we supporting in reference to changing of attitudes?

Of cause we need to be concerned with safety as @TheJohnSinopoli pointed out

I travel the World with my hubby and rarely feel safe holding hands.
But when it is possible will it slowly change attitudes of others, playing a part locally then further a field, showing people it is normal, simply not as common as a straight couple holding hands ?

On a final note…..

@DanReeveland pointed out

People are becoming more open though. The futures bright.

Perhaps when its safe to do so I will reach out for my partners hand in the park next time and show the normality to the world!

Take a look at too https://theworldaccordi
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What does Equality mean to you? 

​Last updated on 30th December 2016 

The dictionary definition of equality is…… 

  1. The state of being equal, especially in status, rights, or opportunities.

  2. “an organization aiming to promote racial, Gender or sexuality equality”

    synonyms: fairness, justness,equitability,
    impartiality, even-handedness, egalitarianism,equal rights, 

Clearly different people have different views, but I asked my followers on @mattersofpride how they see equality. 


Fulfill of the Declaration & of the fact that all people are created equal and are born with unalienable rights. Life Liberty & Happiness.

Being able to be who you are without being persecuted for it. Equality=having the same opportunities without prejudice.

When straight people are no longer offended when being misidentified as gay and stop taking it as an insult.
To not judge others negatively because someone tells me to, hold any bias out of respect. 


Stay true to yourself through these ridiculous elections, know u deserve same rights as everyone else , stay safe. 

Having the same rights and privileges as others without hatred, oppression or punishment and the right to love and be loved. 
May we all have the same number of chances to grab happiness, have all the efforts, gifts and part of drams to be reflected to life quality. 

Easy, loving & accepting each other no matter what a person looks like, believes in or identifies as. Be who you love xx


Equality to me means being able to express my gender identity without fear of being labelled “wrong”


Equality means being free to live your life without fear of discrimination,  hatred,  or abuse for who or what you are.

In the UK ‘Equality and Diversity’ is the current term used for ‘Equal Opportunities’. It is the legal obligation to protect against discrimination.


Equality means to me to fight for sth that should be sth not to fight for coz it’s normality.

Everyone has a heart!

The Equality Act become law in October 2010 and replaced all other acts. This act enforces such discrimination not only of disability, race but religion, sexuality and gender.

Acas is set up in the UK to ensure employees get a fair deal in terms of equality and diversity.


Judging me on my character rather than how I look.


The ability to be who you are without following what society thinks you should be.


Equality means not only being seen as an equal human being but actually treated as an equal by one’s fellow human beings.

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